Unless you read this first.
I know you’re excited to hit the weights after all the holiday eating and drinking, but let’s keep the testosterone in check with what women want/don’t want in the way of attention at the gym.
(Here’s a hint: They don’t want you to be a douchebag)
Hey, it’s ok…
- To look. And by “look,” I mean, maybe a glance or two. Let her know you’ve noticed her, but don’t linger for more than 1 or 2 seconds, and PLEASE, for the love of God, DO NOT look at her while you’re doing bicep curls, grunting, or making noises of any kind. And you’d better not be wearing a douchey tank or wife beater. No.
- To give a compliment. Ideally, you want to say something like, “I like your shoes!” if she’s sporting some new neon green nikes, because A) she loves those shoes, too, and B) hearing a guy say, “I like your shoes” (with a smile on his face), makes a woman feel noticed without feeling like a piece of meat. AND, it saves you both potential embarrassment from other gym-goers listening to your conversation. If she’s at all interested, she will give you cues that she’s ok with talking a little longer.
- To chat A LITTLE. Ok…you told her you like her shoes. She smiled, tossed her hair, and said, “Thank you!” enthusiastically. Your turn. Keep it short and sweet. Smile and say something like, “ I don’t think I could get away with wearing them,” or, “You look a lot better in them than I would,” or, “I have the same pair at home (wink wink),” then let the convo continue for another 10 seconds, if you’re lucky.
It’s NOT ok…
1. To gawk. Especially when she’s on the inner thigh machine.
2. To say creepy things…especially when she’s on the inner thigh machine.
3. To ignore “please leave me alone” signals. ESPECIALLY when she’s on the inner thigh machine.
Catch my drift? Leave women alone while they’re using machines or weights.
Use common sense. Don’t be a douche at the gym.